Is this chore system consensual?

Yes. Every chore rule needs both partners to sign before it goes live. Either partner can pause, edit, or delete rules inside the app. The emergency pause button freezes all active rules instantly if either person needs to stop.

What happens to the stakes if a chore is missed?

The direct-charge stake releases from Stripe Connect to the destination you chose at rule creation. Options include the other partner's wallet, a joint date-night fund, or a selected charity. If the chore is completed on time, the direct charge releases and no money moves.

Can we use this chore tracker for free?

Yes. Points mode lets couples use virtual points instead of money. Premium adds Stripe Connect direct charges for real-stake rules, unlimited rules, and deeper analytics.

How does the app verify that a chore was actually completed?

Rules can be verified through photo submission, checklist confirmation, GPS check-in, or partner confirmation. Both partners agree on the verification method when the rule is created. If there is a disagreement, the rule enters a cooldown phase where both partners can discuss before any stake is released.

Can I set recurring chore rules?

Yes. Rules can repeat daily, weekly, or on specific days. A recurring chore rule like 'Dishes by 9 PM every weeknight' creates a new deadline each day without needing to recreate the rule.

What if my partner refuses to sign a chore rule?

The rule stays in draft. HerWay requires mutual consent — if one partner declines, the rule cannot activate. This prevents unilateral task assignment and encourages the conversation about expectations to happen before the rule is created.

Use cases

Chore chart for couples with clear rules

Set the chore, deadline, and stake before the week starts. Both partners sign the rule, then HerWay tracks whether it was done.

Co-sign chore rules

Define specific expectations — 'Take out garbage Tuesday and Friday by 8 PM' or 'Vacuum the living room before Saturday noon.' Assign an owner, set the deadline, and agree on a stake. The stake can be Achievement milestones (free) or a small dollar amount through Stripe. Both partners review the rule before it goes live.

Enable direct-charge stakes

If both partners choose money-backed rules, the stake is direct-charge through Stripe before the rule starts. There is no surprise charge after an argument. The amount, destination, and conditions are all agreed upon and visible to both people before any chore deadline arrives.

Log misses clearly

Completed chores build streaks. Missed chores release the stake to the destination you both chose — a date-night fund, a charity, or the other partner's wallet. Over weeks, the rule history shows which chores stick and which ones keep slipping. The data is visible to both partners and to any therapist using the B2B dashboard.

Why it helps

Why clear chore rules help

Most chore fights start when the task, owner, or deadline is assumed instead of written down. A signed rule makes the agreement visible before anyone has to ask again. When both partners can see the same deadline, the nagging stops — the rule handles the reminder.

1 rule

captures the task, owner, deadline, and stake before the week starts. No renegotiating mid-week.

2 signs

required before any chore rule goes live. One partner cannot unilaterally assign a task.

FAQ

Frequently asked questions

Learn how HerWay manages domestic rules, protects privacy, and resolves chore arguments.

A paper chore chart shows what was assigned. HerWay also records who agreed, when it was due, and what happens if it is missed. The rule is co-signed, timestamped, and tracked over weeks. When the same chore keeps getting missed, the pattern is visible in the history — something a whiteboard cannot show.

Set the chore rule once.

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