How do we verify compliance for smoking rules?

Verification relies on the check-in method both partners chose. Common methods include an honesty check-in (the person quitting confirms they stayed smoke-free), a scheduled confirmation at a set time, or a partner-confirmed check-in. HerWay records the rule and result; the verification is based on trust and the agreed method.

Is this system coercive for smoking cessation?

No. Both partners must sign the rule, and either partner can pause or edit the setup at any time. The system should be used only when the person quitting wants that structure. If one partner sets the rule and the other feels forced into it, the co-sign step prevents it from activating. Consent is built into the workflow.

Can same-sex couples use HerWay for smoking goals?

Yes. All roles, rules, and features are non-gendered and assignable. The app makes no assumptions about who is quitting or who is supporting.

What happens if I make a mistake or relapse?

If you slip, your daily check-in is logged as missed, and the direct-charge stake releases to the destination you chose. Many couples set the destination to a charity they dislike — creating extra motivation to maintain the streak. A single missed day does not end the system; you can start a new streak the next day.

Can a therapist or coach monitor progress?

Yes. The B2B therapist dashboard shows the streak history, missed days, and rule completion rates. Counselors working with a couple on smoking cessation can use this data to adjust their approach between sessions.

What if the person quitting needs to pause during a stressful period?

Either partner can press the emergency pause button to freeze all active rules instantly. The pause prevents accidental stake releases during high-stress moments. Rules reactivate after a cooldown period, and both partners can adjust the rule before restarting.

Use cases

Quit smoking with partner check-ins

Set a daily smoke-free rule, sign it together, and log the check-in. HerWay keeps the agreement clear before the hard moment arrives.

Co-sign daily rules

Choose a daily rule, such as 'Zero cigarettes today' or 'Check in by 9 PM.' The person quitting defines the boundary they want to keep. Their partner reviews and co-signs the rule. The stake can be Achievement milestones or a small dollar amount — both partners approve before the rule goes live.

Enable direct-charge stakes

Approve the stake before cravings hit so the commitment is already settled when the hard moment arrives. The direct charge is held by Stripe and does not move unless the rule is missed. Some couples route missed stakes to a charity they dislike — doubling the motivation. Others use a joint reward pot.

Build smoke-free streaks

Complete honest daily check-ins. Each completed day builds the streak. Missed rules release the stake to the destination you both chose. Over weeks, the streak counter shows progress in a concrete way. Therapists and coaches using the B2B dashboard can review the streak history between sessions.

Why it helps

Why daily check-ins help

A daily check-in gives the commitment a clear time and place. The goal is not blame — it is a written rule both partners agreed to before cravings or stress take over. When 9 PM arrives and the check-in is due, the rule already exists. The decision was made when willpower was high.

Daily

check-ins give the quit goal a clear time and place. The rule is settled before the craving arrives.

Pause

lets either partner freeze rules during illness, stress, or travel. No accidental charges during hard moments.

FAQ

Frequently asked questions

How HerWay handles verification, pauses active rules, and supports smoking cessation.

The person quitting sets the boundary they want to keep — for example, 'zero cigarettes today' or 'no smoking at home.' Their partner reviews and co-signs the rule. Both approve the check-in method and the stake. Each day, the person quitting logs a check-in. If the rule is kept, the streak grows. If it is missed, the direct-charge stake goes to the agreed destination.

Set today's smoke-free rule

Co-sign the check-in, pick the deadline, and choose whether a small stake helps.

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